How to Pick Yourself Up | Monday Confessions

IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE

Its Monday, and all the Glam&Glitter followers know what that means. Its time to give you a fresh, inspiring and personal story that will give all of us a bit more power to push through the week. To be honest I just came from a very draining trip, I am not inspired as the only thing I can see around is a pile of laundry. There are also some unopened boxes, a lot of mess and a whole beauty cabinet which is out for some reason. Wait I need to write a blog post, but then there are emails arriving. So much to do and at the same time I don’t know what to write about. I really don’t want to talk about what happened in St.Tropezr again, because I had to tell the story so many times. To my mum, dad, sister, police, friends, more friends, film a youtube video and talk about it for days. I am so over it, and I am happy its over which is why I decided to talk to you about how to pick yourself up after something bad happens, without actually mentioning the story again! So lets try!

Ponedeljak je, svi čitatelji Glam&Glittera znaju tačno šta to znači. Vreme je da vam napišem nešto inspirativno, lično nešto što će nas sve pogurati na početku nedelje. Da budem iskrena vratila sam se sa jako iscrpljujućeg putovanja, nisam inspirisana jer sve što oko sebe vidim je gomila veša za pranje. Tu su i neke neotvorene kutije, haos u ormaniću za kozmetiku, čekaju me mejlovi a moram da napišem ovaj post. S druge strane zaista ne bih opet da govorim o iskustvu iz St.Tropeza, već sam o tome pričala dosta puta. Prvo mami i tati, sestri, policiji dva puta, prijateljima, pa još nekim prijateljima a onda još i u videu. Toliko sam već s tim raskrstila da vam ne mogu opisati. Srećna sam što je sve gotovo, pa sam odlučila da napišem post o tome kako se ja nosim sa uznemiravajućim situacijama i kako sama sebe podignem posle svakog pada.

MY TIPS

Now I must tell you that I had a fair share of bas experiences in my life. Hard times which varied from broken heart to losing home, loved ones or just really anxious times. And its all ok, we all go through hard times but important thing is never to judge what is difficult for others. I had a friend who would always have a nervous break down when her mother would say no to new pair of shoes, but also had friend who was absolutely fine through out a difficult divorce. Its important to know that different things are difficult for different people. Now I will tell you how I normally pick myself up when down:

1.Look your best

Whenever I am down or after a break up I make sure to look my best. Wash your hair, maybe get a hair cut or a colour touch up. Have a long bath, put on a face mask, paint your nails and just feel great. Put so much time into doing your make up until you feel amazing. This will not only make you feel beautiful but it will also boost your confidence and help elevate your mood. Who doesn’t like to look great?

2.Leave your home

Since you already look fabulous, you should leave the home. Arrange a coffee with friends, have a lunch and laugh. Now I wouldn’t be a responsible online friend if I wouldn’t warn you that overly indulging in alcohol doesn’t help here – trust me I tried. Instead just laugh a lot. I am known to often even joke about stuff that happens to me. Try to see something good in it. Sure your vacation got cancelled but maybe that means you can spend more time with your mother? Maybe that means you can finally do something else that you really should be doing instead!

3.Exercise

This is specially great when angry or sad. Run, such the bag, do yoga, cycle, meditate, swim, depending on what you like. Its scientifically proven that exercising helps when you are down, so do it. Now!

4.Clean your home

This one is actually my favourite. Change the bed sheets, clean the windows, wash the clothes, freshen up the space. Maybe even change some furniture around. You will be so occupied with doing work that you will forget about what is really bothering you. In the end you will be so happy as your living space will be beautiful and you will enjoy it much more.

5.You are not the only one

Really you never are. Its so important to remember that sadly bad things are happening everywhere in the world. You are not the only one going through grief, heeling a broken heart, dealing with loss. When burglars broke into our house in St.Tropez I was grateful to know that it wasn’t worse than what happened. Why? Because I knew these things happen all the time, to many people and the worst thing you can do is think “Why me?” .

Its really fine to be sad and shaken from time to time. No one is saying you should get rid of the feeling right away, because these things take time, make sure to give yourself plenty of time to deal with whatever is going on, but I still thought I would share some hacks which always help me when I am distressed. Remember that hard times only make us better in life, they help us grow and develop so they are absolutely necessary in life. Wishing you all a fantastic week.

Pre nego što počnem moram vam reći da sam imala popriličan broj teških trenutaka u životu. Teške trenutke je nezahvalno definisati ali recimo nešto od raskida sa voljenom osobom, preko gubitka doma, gubitka voljenih ljudi, do onih jednostavno psihički teških momenata. Sve je to ok, ničiji život nije lagan, ali ono što je bitno da ne osudjujemo druge na osnovu toga šta je za njih teško. Imala sam drugaricu koja je uvek doživljavala nervni slom kada joj mama ne bi kupila cipele koje hoće, ali isto tako sam poznavala i devojku koja se nije potresla ni oko razvoda. Važno je da imamo razumevanja i da ne može svako mnogo da podnese. Sada ću vam reći šta ja radim kako bih se podigla posle pada.

1.Izgledaj fenomenalno

Kad god sam tužna ili pogotovo posle teškog raskida uvek sam želela da izgledam super. Operi kosu, možda otidji na frizuru, razmisli o novoj boji. Predlažem i dugu kupku, lakiranje noktiju, masku za lice. Sve ono da bi se osećale fantastično. Ovo ne samo da će vas oraspoložiti već će vam i popraviti samopouzdanje. Ko ne voli da izgleda super.

2.Izadji napolje

Kad već izgledaš super, šteta je da ostaneš kod kuće. Dogovori kafu sa prijateljima, možda ručak i mnogo smeha. Ne bih bila odgovorni online prijatelj ako vas ne bih upozorila da konzumiranje alokohola u velikim količinama ne pomaže – verujte mi probala sam. Umesto toga smejte se mnogo. Ja se uvek šalim čak i na račun nemilih dogadja, to mi pomaže da ih banalizujem. Ponavljajte sebi šta je to dobro u svoj toj nesreći. Kad se jedna vrata zatvore druga se otvore!

3.Vežba

Ovo je pogotovo dobro kada sam ljuta ili tužna. Trčanje, yoga, bicikli, meditacija, box. Naučno je dokazano da vežba pomaže kada ste tužni, zato bacite se u akciju. Odmah!

4.Čišćenje doma

Ovo je moja omiljena stavka. Promenite posteljinu, operite prozore, ozvežite svoj životni prostor. Možda biste mogli premestiti nameštaj i učiniti sve lepšim. Ne samo da ćete na ovaj način okupirati mozak da ne razmišlja o tužnim stvarima, već ćete i uživati u divno spremljenoj i očišćenoj kući.

5.Ne dešava se samo vama

Zaista, verujte mi na reč. Jako je bitno da kada vam se nešto loše desi podsetite sebe da se slične stvari dešavaju svakodnevno svugde u svetu. Niste jedini koji tuguju, kojima je teško i koji se bore sa gubitkom. Kada su lopovi upali u našu kuću u St.Tropezu bila sam zahvalna što se nešto gore nije desilo. Zašto? Zato što sam svesna d se ovakve a i gore stvari dešavaju svugde u svetu. Najgore što možete je da se pitate “Zašto baš ja?”.

U svakom slučaju, ok je biti tužan. Niko ne kaže da treba prihvatiti i tugu, ali ove stvari zahtevaju vreme. Dajte sebi dovoljno vremena i strpljenja za sve što se dešava. Ipak želela sam da sa vama podelim neke savete koji su meni pomogli u životu. Ne zaboravite da su żivotne prepreke bitne za razvitak i rast, a ja vam żelim divnu nedelju.

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27 Comments

  1. Aug 29, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    Love the suit. So cute! Great tips. I think keeping busy can help so much when in the blues.

  2. Aug 29, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Cleaning is a great way to help you get back to where you were before, because you get back into the mindset that there are things in your life that you can control. Also it’s a mix between being therapeutic and also proactive at the same time haha :)
    Anjna Harish 

  3. La Bijoux Bella | by mia
    Aug 30, 2016 / 12:50 am

    I adore inspirational posts such as this. It always seems to uplift and remind ourselves that there’s always a brand new day to look forward to . . . No matter what! Simply a parfait post! :)

    La Bijoux Bella | by mia

  4. WomenInLove
    Aug 30, 2016 / 1:54 am

    Ti si jedno divno bice. Mnogo mi je zao sto se desilo to sto vam se desilo, ali, znas kako kazu: “ko zna zasto je to dobro”. Sad cete verovatno biti obazriviji. Lose stvari se i desavaju iz jednog jedinog razloga, a to je testiranje nas samih. Samo najjaci opstaju, a ti si jedna od njih. Zelim ti lepu i ugodnu nedelju. Pozdrav iz Banjaluke. <3

  5. Aug 30, 2016 / 5:12 am

    These are great tips! When I’m feeling down looking great and exercising both help a ton! Thanks girl!

  6. Aug 30, 2016 / 8:10 am

    Great tips babe, I totally agree with you! It’s important to be busy and do something so we don’t think about current situations..
    I also wanted to say that I can’t even imagine what were you guys going through that night in St.Tropez, glad that you and your friends are fine, everything else you can replace <3
    xx
    http://putitallonme.com/

  7. Adele
    Aug 30, 2016 / 9:27 am

    Lovely photos & great advice as always Tamara! It’s great that you’re trying to move on from your experience in St Tropez.
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  8. Aug 30, 2016 / 9:28 am

    I love these tips, leaving the house is definitely one I stand by, sometimes it can feel as if the world is coming in on you, so I always go out for a walk! x
    http://www.flareaforte.com

  9. Ali V
    Aug 30, 2016 / 9:46 am

    Tamara, you are such an inspiring human being! I love reading your blog and watching your videos, as they always put a smile on my face.
    Staying true the optimist you are, you’ve turned an awful situation into something positive and inspiring. That is truly something to be proud of.
    Thank you for injecting some of that positivity into my week.
    Xx

  10. Lucija
    Aug 30, 2016 / 10:48 am

    predivno napisano… predlažem jedan post o ljubavi i vezama :) obožavam te čitati i gledati na you tubeu.. slike kao i uvijek savršene, pozdrav :* :))))))

    • Mariam Ali
      Aug 30, 2016 / 10:35 pm

      I ja bih voljelao toj temi :)

  11. Mimi
    Aug 30, 2016 / 2:25 pm

    So true Tamara. I went through a quiet tough time and always made sure that I looked my best. Only people close too me could tell that I am hurting.
    Great tips. Have a great week my dear.
    Mimi

  12. Aug 30, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    I am so sorry about what you had to endure during your trip. Don’t worry about it because there is so much to look forward to! I love this post so much. I just love getting out of the house and going somewhere new to explore around :)
    Omnivogues

  13. Aug 30, 2016 / 5:04 pm

    Thanks for sharing this with us! Right now I’m going through difficult time too, so I understand you.
    Love xx
    styleofgoddess.wordpress.com

  14. TASNEEM SAIF
    Sep 2, 2016 / 6:50 pm

    Hi Tamara, I think these r all great advice to be productive even when one is sad or is going through tough times. True cleaning up the house and the self and keeping fit doesn’t hurt. Its better to be productive than destructive. Thanks for ur wonderful post.

  15. Urška
    Sep 6, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    This post helped a lot! Today I’m just feeling down and angry and for some reason anxious and nervous, so this tips will definitely come in handy, not only today but any day when I’m feeling like that. So thanks for this post. I’m starting with Tip 3 by doing some exercise! :)

  16. Sep 17, 2016 / 7:50 pm

    Great tips! And if you feel fabulous it’s good to leave home even to enjoy spending time only with yourself….without a company)
    xo

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