How To Deal with Negativity | Monday Confessions

GOOD VIBES ONLY

My life policy is pretty much summed up in the title of this paragraph. Good Vibes Only! I don’t really let negativity get to me, and unless people have a really good reason to complain about something I don’t have understanding for it. You know people who complain that its too hot, then its too cold, then their dressing is too sour, their soup too salty, they won’t shut up about other people who are too loud, too annoying or they complain about stuff they can’t even change like the school system or the society.

I mean there are so many amazing thing to focus on that I really don’t have time for complainers. If you spend time with me you will often hear me say “I am so happy to be home”, “I am so excited about this trip”or even when the experience is bad, I try to say “I am so happy that is over”. Sure you can focus only on negative stuff, but trust me, no one likes to be around negative people, and I am sure neither do you, which is why you are reading this text.

Let me tell you some of my strategies on how to get rid of negativity in your life.

Moj zivot u sustini staje u naslov ovog paragrafa! Samo dobre vibracije! Zaista ne dopustam negativnim vibracijama da mi zatruju energiju i osim ako neko nema zaista dobar razlog za kukanje nemam razumevanja. Znate oni ljudi kojima sve smeta, prevruce je, paje prehladno, salata je prekisela, supa preslana, drugi ljudi su im preglasni, ili kukaju oko stvari koje se ne mogu promeniti kao sto je skolski sistem ili drustvo.

Ima toliko toga na svetu na sta se ja radije fokusiram tako da zaista nemam vremena na ljude koji se hronicno zale. Ako provedete malo vremena sa mnom primeticete da cesto kazem “Srecna sam sto sam kod kuce”,”Uzbudjena sam oko ovog putovanja”, ili cak i kadaje lose iskustvo u pitanju kazem “Srecna sam sto je proslo”.  Naravno da se svi mi mozemo koncentrisati na lose aspekte zivota, ali verujte mi da niko ne voli da bude okruzen negativnim ljudima,bas kao ni vi ukoliko citate ovaj tekst.

Sada cu vam reci moje strategije i misli o tome kako se otarasiti negativnih vibracija i ljudi.

TIPS

Negative people are like a black hole that drains everything good on this planet. so these are my tips on how to deal with them:

1.NEGATIVE OR TROUBLED

There is a big difference between the two, so its important to make sure you can differentiate it before you start judging and dealing. There are some people who are just gong through a lot in life hence don’t know how to act. People who are actually in need of you and you shouldn’t just brush them off. Ask yourself if your friend was difficult and negative even before they got in trouble, if the answer is no, they maybe just need you. If the answer is yes, keep on reading.

2.YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE

Remember that its not your responsibility to cheer people up. I always used to make it a mission to make people feel better, confident, happy, and then realised that there are some people who just enjoy being miserable. Yep, that is true. There are people who feed of scaring and making other people sad, so don’t be a victim of this. If you notice some severely negative people in your life, its really time to get rid of the poison by simply distancing yourself. Not sure how? Try not to engage too much, and just smile and nod to their negative remarks.

3.DO OT ENGAGE IN NEGATIVITY

That negative person in your environment constantly talks bad about everyone. Cant remember last time they complimented someone? Don’t be the same. Outline how much you like different things, be great example of positivity and don’t let their attitude become your attitude. Engaging in negativity is the first step in becoming negative yourself.

4.CONVERSATION

If the person really can’t stop being negative and its someone you feel really needs help, try stopping the negative thought process by good conversation. When they complain about a certain scenario ask them “What would be your dream outcome instead?” Often people realise that they are unhappy without a reason. Try and reason then into thinking that hate and negativity is only bad for themselves.

5.BE ENTHUSIASTIC

Never let energy drainers get to you. Its not your fault that people are negative, not your responsibility to look after them. The only thing that you have to make sure is to keep healthy positive attitude if you want to get anywhere in life. There will always be people who try to drain you and take your time and your happiness away. Don’t let them. Make sure to stand up for yourself and tell them that if they really want to poison a water they have to go to someone else well.

Remember that saying “You are either a well or a fountain” taking people up or down. Don’t be a well, as sooner or later you will be alone in the world with no friends around you. Be that person that makes others feel good about themselves, happy and positive. There is no better reward than that.

Negativni ljudi su kao crna rupa koja u sebe uvlaci sve dobro na planeti, ovo su moje misli kako se boriti sa ovakvim pojavama.

1.NEGATIVNI ILI U PROBLEMU

Jako je bitno da razlikujete osobe koje su negativne i osobe koje trenutno prolaz kroz tezak period. Ljudi koji se ponasaju cudno zato sto ste im potrebni su takvi jer ne naju drugacije. Pitajte sami sebe da li je vas prijatelj bio negativan i pre teskih zivotnih situacija ako je odgovor ne, onda mu pruzite podrsku i nemojte ga terati od sebe. Ako je odgovor da, nastavite citati.

2.NISTE VI ODGOVORNI

Zapamtite da niste vi odgovorni za tudju srecu. Ja sam se uvek trudila da oraspolozim druge ljude, trudila se da im pomognem da se osecaju bolje, da imaju samopouzdanja, ali neki ljudi vole da budu ucveljeni. Da, upravo tako. Ima ljudi koji se hrane negativnoscu i vole da sire takve stavove, nemojte biti zrtva ovoga. Ako primetite nekoliko negativnih ljudi u svom zivotu, onda je vreme da se otarasite otrova. Ne  znate kako? Nemojte podrzavati njihovo kukanje, samo klimajte glavom nasmesite se i produzite.

3.NE PODRZAVAJTE NEGATIVNOST

Negativne osobe koje stalno pricaju lose u drugima su prisutne svugde. Ne mozete se setiti kada je ta vasa drugarica rekla ijednu lepu stvar za nekoga? Nemojte biti isti. Uvek budite iskreni i recite kada vam se nesto dopada na ljudima cak i ako generalno ne volite tu osobu. Budite primer za pozitivne misli za lepo raspolozenje. Ako se ukljucujete previse u negativne rasprave i sami cete postati negativni.

4.RAZGOVOR

Ako vasa prijateljica ne moze da prestane sa negativnoscu i vi zelite da joj pomognete, ima nekoliko nacina za zaustavljanje negativnih misli. Kada kuka pitajte je sta bi bo njen ocekivani rezultat umesto tog koji je dobila, sta bi volela da se desilo i kako bi mogla sledeci put doci do toga. Ljudi cesto ne shvataju da su nesrecni bez razloga. Pokusajte im pomoci da dodju do pravog resenja i shvate da je mrznja i negativnost losa najvise po njih same.

5.BUDITE ENTUZIASTICNI

Ne dopustite ljudima da crpe vasu energiju. niste krivi ako je neko drugi negativan, niste ni odgovorni za njihovu srecu. Jedino sto mozete jeste da budete srecni i pozitivni i da ne dopustate drugima da vas more. Uvek ce biti ljudi koji zele da oneraspoloze druge, koji misle da su na taj nacin realni i ljudi koji zele da svi drugi budu nezadovoljni. Ne dozvolite im. Drzite se svojih stavova i ne dozvolite njihovom otrovu u vas potok.

Setite se izreke “Ili si bunar ili fontana”, osob koja spusta ili podize ljude. Nemojte biti bunar, jer pre ili kasnije necete imati nikoga oko sebe.  Budite osoba koja je srecna, pozitivna, nasmejana i vesela. Nema bolje nagrade od toga.

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53 Comments

  1. Jun 6, 2016 / 8:32 pm

    So important to surround yourself with positive vibes and people. Also, your fringed jacket is gorgeous.

    ❤︎
    Dakota D.
    http://fannypacksandvisors.com
    Instagram: @missdsquared413

  2. Jun 6, 2016 / 9:06 pm

    Tamara , I completely agree with you . Our time is so precious that it is stupid to surround yourself with negative people . Take life with a positive attitude , that’s what makes a good life! great post dear!
    xo
    Cinzia

    new post ” maxi dress”
    http://www.callmeblondiebycinziasatta.com

  3. Jun 6, 2016 / 10:23 pm

    WOW What fab Monday vibes!! Do not engage with negativity. We’re all here to share fun girly things and experiences. We should be helping and encouraging one another not bringing people down due to jealousy. Well or a Fountain? I know which one I am.
    Love and good energy xxx

  4. La Bijoux Bella | by mia
    Jun 6, 2016 / 11:08 pm

    I am best at ignoring sadness, anything negative … Knowing it’s there, it’s reality, but there are certainly other paths to take in life instead of letting sadness or negativity collide with us! Be in the present and enjoy, because tomorrow will be a different day! :)

    A very nice post. I love it! :)

    La Bijoux Bella | by mia

  5. Anja
    Jun 6, 2016 / 11:40 pm

    Predivno napisano Just good vibes!!

  6. Pam
    Jun 7, 2016 / 2:32 am

    To be honest, I am one to have my “days”. I often get stressed way too easily and start to complain about EVERYTHING, even I know I’m being stupid but sometimes you just have to let off some steam for a bit before going back to normal lol
    Otherwise, I tend to live by your rules, great read!

    http://www.pamelayaquelin.blogspot.com

  7. Jun 7, 2016 / 4:56 am

    I totally agree! Even when people are being negative around me I try my best to find a bright side.

  8. Jun 7, 2016 / 8:17 am

    Život je kratak da bi bili okruženi negativnošću!
    Odličan tekst. Sve pohvale!

  9. Tomislav
    Jun 7, 2016 / 8:26 am

    Svaka čast.

  10. Jun 7, 2016 / 11:49 am

    This is sooo true! I think being enthusiastic is the best way to trick yourself into avoiding negativity. Your positive attitude will keep you happy and rub off onto other people!
    Omnivogues

  11. Jun 7, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    I totally agree with your lovie and that negativity and all time complaining is the reason why I don’t hang out with negative people anymore. I am the girl who want to be happy and smile all the time so I sure don’t like to listen unimportant complaining and I prefer to spend my time with ones who actually make me smile and lift me up :)

    LOVE this outfit though! You look amazing <3
    xx
    http://putitallonme.com/

  12. Jun 7, 2016 / 1:13 pm

    hi tamara, first i wanted to congratulate you on your fabulous work and tell you that you are literally my inspiration and awakening my style animal, so to speak.
    This post is really one of the best reads i have ever encountered on the internet. The honesty and passion you have put in it is more than words can even say.
    Stay positive, stay passionate and most important of all never forget who you are. Wish you lots of luck for the future
    lots of love from Germany
    kamen kamenov

  13. pueh
    Jun 7, 2016 / 2:41 pm

    thank you so so much for this post! I just had an absolutely rubbish day at work and I’m trying to deal with this crazy bout of self-doubt but for some reason, this post just cheered me up. thank you so much!

  14. Jun 7, 2016 / 9:01 pm

    What a great read after a long day at work! Thanks Tamara! X

  15. Adele
    Jun 8, 2016 / 9:55 am

    I’m like you Tamara, positivity rules! Great advice, I especially should take note about cheering people up. Love the cute white & tan look.
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  16. Jun 8, 2016 / 5:11 pm

    This is so true! I always try to stay positive :)
    Love your look! That dress is gorgeous :)xoxo

    Ileana

    Novelstyle Blog

  17. Jun 8, 2016 / 8:05 pm

    wow, wonderful post. You look so sweet with that dress.
    Xoxo, Leyre

  18. Jun 8, 2016 / 9:30 pm

    Your look is wonderful!!
    Kisses!!
    Olga

  19. 567
    Jun 9, 2016 / 12:21 am

    Divan post.

  20. Jun 9, 2016 / 12:11 pm

    Very good tips indeed! Sometimes, I let the negativity let me down for days and I know it is not good at all! I would love to think free!

    http://www.thequinoxfashion.com

  21. Jun 9, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    Ahh, i’m a huge hater for negativity unless there’s a decent reason! I hate when people moan about little things like just look at the positives you could be in a worst situation!!!

    Loved this post :) X

    http://www.emilyy.co.uk

  22. neyra
    Jun 9, 2016 / 11:29 pm

    Draga Tamara, danas sam slucajno naisla na tvoj video od prije par godina. Za oko mi zapala cvijetna traka na tvojoj kosi, i tako sam provela veci dio dana uz tvoj blog i tvoje videe. Jednostavno si predivna, osvajas ljude svojom prirodnom ljepotom, i toliko izgledas pristupacno i neopisivo simpaticno. Svaka cast na svemu sto si postigla svojim radom. Veeeeliki pozdrav iz Sarajeva

  23. Jun 11, 2016 / 2:49 am

    I agree with you, the best way to rid negativity in your life is set a positive example! And if people are draining your energy, cut them out of your life! Life is too short for that kind of nonsense.

    COLLEENWELSCH.COM

  24. Jun 11, 2016 / 11:00 am

    It’s pretty evident in your gorgeous photos that you are very positive. Will read your blog often and thanks for stopping by mine :)
    http://www.cozyzen.com

  25. Jun 11, 2016 / 1:56 pm

    Apsolutno se slažem nekim ljudima nikada ne može da se udovolji jer su u dubini svoje duše nesrećni i ne vide ništa lepo u svom životu.
    Samo nabrajaju negativne stvari i koliko god da se trudite pored njih oni vas sve više vuku. Srećom ne obazirem se više na takve osobe emotivno i ne dozvoljavam da me to povredi ili obeshrabri, pa čak ni pokvari raspoloženje,
    Pozdrav za tebe veliki.
    Novi instagram post je na blogu :)
    http://fashionovertherainbow.com/instgram-4/

  26. Jun 11, 2016 / 2:26 pm

    Great post :)

  27. Jun 11, 2016 / 4:25 pm

    I love the point: “Be enthusiastic”. It can be so draining when you allow negative talkers get to you. Thanks for the inspiring post!

    Precious Blog

  28. Jun 11, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    Your blog post is really interesting to read. All the tips are great.
    I try to stay as much positive that I can and avoid being around negative people or not engaging to much with them.

    Laura
    http://furiouslychic.blogspot.ch/

  29. Jun 11, 2016 / 10:20 pm

    How do you deal with constructive criticism ? I have been wanting to hint at the bloggers about the damage fast fashion is doing to human life and the planet. When ever someone does a haul with a 10$ top, I remember the sweatshops that I visited and the women/children suffering. When ever I suggest this to the bloggers, I get attacked as a hater and get written off as a negative person.

  30. Jelena
    Jun 12, 2016 / 12:03 am

    Bravooo!!!

  31. Jun 12, 2016 / 9:13 am

    You really know, how to cheer people up, Tamara!

  32. Jun 12, 2016 / 12:44 pm

    Couldn’t agree more with this: Engaging in negativity is the first step in becoming negative yourself.
    Thanks for sharing dear!

  33. Jun 12, 2016 / 2:36 pm

    Beautiful photos & great tips girl. I always look forward to checking out your blog- it always inspires me.

    Blonde in Cashmere

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