How to Declutter Your Life | Monday Confessions

There are so many topics i feel like discussing lately. People who get easily offended, people who get easily embarrassed, people who cant stop dwelling over something that happened year ago. I don’t mea a big thing, I mean like that random boy not returning the phone call.

You get the point. I guess in order to maintain the positivity on this blog, and continue the “Good Vibes Only” instead I will talk to you about decluttering your life, as its a topic I really need to embrace.

I have always been a pretty messy person. Not just with my things, even in my head. There is always so much going on and even my boyfriend tells me that he never met a person that leads such an intense eventful life. As a child it meant toys everywhere, different materials from which I used to make Barbie dresses and as an adult it means starting one job, then remembering another, continuing with creative, then finishing nothing – not an ideal situation, as I always feel like there is such a mess in my head, never enough time and so much confusion.

I used to forget doing my homework, bringing the art supplies for art class, I used to forget my PE equipment and all of that because there was so much clutter in my life. Instead of doing that homework I went whole afternoon listening to an acquaintance tell me her love story over the phone. She always calls when she needs something so I really need to help her, you know.

When I finally started depending on myself I realised something needs to change and I decided to declutter my life. Only read this post if you intend to do the same, as I am about to share some of my most valuably kept wisdom with you now.

Decluttering your life means removing everything toxic, unnecessary and useless thing from your life. Its something we all dread doing but all need we need to do, and I must say I did it before and its like removing the plaster. The sooner you do it, the better, it stings for a moment, but afterwards you feel liberated and so much better.

It means having around you all that is positive, what you need and what you love. Its time to analyse your life!

Ima toliko toga o cemu zelim da pricam sa vama u poslednje vreme. Razmisljam o ljudima koji su uvredljvi, ljudima kojih je svega sramota, ljudima koji nikako ne mogu da predju preko neceg sto se desilo pre godinu dana i nikako da prestanu pricati o tome. Mislim konkretno na momka koji im nije uzvratio poziv. Shvatate sta hocu reci. Kako bih nastavila sa pozitivnim mislima na ovom blogu i iskljucivo dobrim vibracijama odlucila sam da vam napisem par redaka o tome kako ocistiti svoj zivot od svega sto ga zaustavlja u napretku.

Uvek sam bila prilicno neuredna osoba kada je rec o mojim mislima. hocu da kazem da se uvek mnogo toga desava u mojoj glavi. Decko mi kaze da nikada nije upoznao osobu kojavodi zivot toliko dramatican, zabavan i pun dogadjaja, nisam sigurna da je to dobra stvar, ali ja cim pocnem jedno, setim se drugog, nastavim trece, pa posle par dana zavrsim ono prvo. Jednostavno haos, haos u glavi, haos u zivotu. Kao dete imala sam Barbike razbacane svugde, uglavnom skinute odece, jer sam im ja pravila haljine od krpica, materijala, delova vune. Nista se nije promenilo ni sa 20 godina, uvek se osecam da sam zatrpana stvarima oko sebe, mislima i raznim obavezama.

Zaboravila bih da uradim domaci, da donesem blok za likovno, opremu za fizicko, jednostavno jer sam osecala da zivim u nekom neredu, ne fizicki vec mentalno. Kao da sam na oblaku. Umesto da radim domaci kod kuce bih slusala poznanicu kako drvi o svom ljubavnom zivotu satima na telefon, a ja naravno moram da saslusam, jer ona nema nikog drugog da nazove, a ja moram da joj pomognem, jer se uvek bas meni obrati za pomoc.

Kada sam konacno pocela zaradjivati za zivot i biti nezavisna, shvatila sam da neke stvari moraju biti promenjene. Odlucila sam da ocistim svoj zivot odsvega sto me vuce dole. Nastavite citati ovaj post samo ako zelite da uradite isto i da se posvetite sebi. Ja cu sa vama podeliti moje do sada najvece otkrice i najbolju stvar koju sam ikada uradila.

“Ocistiti svoj zivot” znaci iz njega izbaciti sve toksicno, nepotrebno i beskoristno iz njega. To je ono sto vam se ne radi, jer zahteva mnogo energije, ali ono sto morate uraditi za sebe. Kao uklanjanje flastera posle nekoliko dana, mozda ce boleti ali samo momentalno, a onda cete zaboraviti na to i ziveti lepsi zivot bez njega.

Oko sebe treba da imate samo pozitivno, samo dobre misli i ono sto vam treba, barem od stvari koje mozete izabrati da li zelite u svom zivotu.

1.Toxic Relationships.

So you know that friend that calls you only when she needs something? You give her so much time, you help her so much, all the time you defend her and try and be there for her, but in reality she never ever asked how do you feel, never asked if she can help you and never really spoke to you about anything else but herself? Yeah, newsflash she isn’t really a friend. You are giving her your valuable time and she is using her. Time to cut the ties there. All of sudden you will have more time for yourself and for people who deserve it.

2. Wardrobe full of stuff you don’t wear

You spend so much time standing in front of wardrobe because you have nothing to wear? No actually you probably mean nothing ”desirable” to wear. This often happens to me when my wardrobe is full of stuff I haven’t worn for a year and I cant see the good stuff from all the weird, unnecessary items. Its time to get rid of everything you haven’t worn in a year. Put it in a box, give it to your friends, give it to charity. Do whatever you wish to do with it, but remove it from your space. You will then get more time to do your makeup in the mornings because you wont spend an eternity staring at your wardrobe.

3.Work related mess.

Receipts, papers, books, notebooks, staplers. Wait, I have a stapler? Yes, I have three, but I cant remember when I used it last time and I also don’t have any space in my drawers. Same rule as above. Get rid of everything you can so that you can easily find what you need and have less stress at work.

4. Less is More

Getting rid of al the stuff you don’t need means being able to put energy into stuff you love, into stuff that bring you smile and happiness. There is so much that we are attached to just because of habit, like having certain things in your wardrobe because your aunt bought it for you, or still speaking to that toxic friend out of simple routine.

Its time to change stuff for better, its time to become more positive, more productive and a better person. Sort out your life by getting rid of every piece of negativity in it, I know I did, and I feel much happier about it.

1.Toksicne Veze

Dakle ta prijateljica koja vas zove samo kada njoj treba, date joj mnogo svog vremena, energije, paznje, trudite se da budete tu za nju, branite je pred drugim ljudima, a ona vas nikada nije pitala kako ste vi, nikada vam nije ponudila pomoc ili rame za plakanje. Sokantna novost! Ona vam nije prijatelj. Vreme je da prekinete veze, iako je mozda tesko uskoro cete shvatiti da imate vise vremena za sebe i ljude koji vas zasluzuju.

2.Orman pun stvari koje ne nosite.

Provodite mnogo vremena birajuci kombinaciju za taj dan? Nikad nemate nista za obuci? Poznato mi je to, zapravo nemati sta obuci znaci nemati nista POZELJNO za obuci. Sve je dosadno, neinspirativno. Ovo se desava kada vam je orman krcat stvarima koje jednostavno ne nosite vec sto godina. Otarasite se svega sto nista nosili godinu dana ma koliko vam drago bilo ili “mozda nekad zatrebalo”, dajte prijateljima, poklonite u dobrotvorne svrhe, uradite sta hocete, ali oslobodite svoj prostor od stvari koje ga nepotrebno koriste. Tada cete sa lakocom ugledati sve ono sto volite,rado nosite i imati vise vremena za kosu ili sminku, jer cete vecnost provodite negde drugo a ne pred ormanom.

3.Neuredan sto

Racuni, papiri, knjige, sveske, heftalica. Cekaj, ja imam heftalicu? Da, imam tri, ali se ne secam kada sam je zadnji put koristila. Pune su mi fioke rezervnih patroni, a nemam mesta za bitne stvari.  Isto pravilo kao broj 2. Otarasite se svega sto vam ne treba kako biste imali manje stresa na poslu.

4.Manje je vise

Kada se oslobodite svega sto vam ne treba, upotrebicete energiju i prostor za stvari koje volite i koje vam donose srecu. Imamo toliko toga u zivotu iz navike, toliko toga zbog “Emotivne vaznosti”. ali verujte mi dasve sto nam ne doprinosi a koristi vreme i energiju nije vredno posedovanja. Bas kao ta toksicna prijaeljica koja je samo deo rutine. Vreme je zapromenu.

Da, vreme je za promenu, promenu na bolje. Bicete pozitivniji, nasmejaniji a samim tim i bolja osoba. Sredite svoj zivot kako biste se otarasili svega negativnog iz njega. Ja znam da sam ja to morala uciniti a sada se osecam fenomenalno.

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  1. Sasha
    May 9, 2016 / 11:45 am

    I strongly agree with every single point of this post! It’s sometimes so sad that we can’t get rid of stuff that just bring us down! I will try to start with decluttering my closet, as I already did a pretty good job with getting rid of toxic people:)
    Xxxx
    Sasha

  2. Maria
    May 9, 2016 / 12:10 pm

    Kao da si mene opisala ponekad. :-) Napravila sam “ciscenje” prijateljstva i iskreno, mnogo drame i nervoze sam uklonila iz svog zivota, ne zanima sto ljudi pricaju i gledam samo ljudi koje me vole i koje ja volim. Imam 26 godina i voljela bih da sam prije 5-6 godina ovako razmisljala. Cim sam uklonila par osoba iz svoje svakodnevnice i postalo mi je lakse. Mislim da mi je dosta osoba koje se nikad zbog nekog mog uspjeha nece radovat i samo podmuklo posmatraju i zapitkuju i koji misle da ako nesto iz prvog pokusaja ne prodje da treba da se odustane. Nikad nisam bila tip osobe koja voli da se zali drugima, ali u jednom trenutku mi je bilo dosta svih onih koje moje vrijeme trose samo na sebe, koji me iskoriste za neku setnju kad njima odgovara, koji u svakoj mojoj ideji ili zelji vide nesto negativno i nemoguce. Milo mi je sto si ovaj tekst napisala jer u pravu si VRIJEME JE ZA PROMJENE :-) Uzivaj

  3. May 9, 2016 / 3:43 pm

    You look amazing but I also really love this article. I can relate, I spend my life with a confusion in my wardrobe, confusion in my head and a confusion in my diary. I keep ‘re-oganising’ myself and r-emessing myself up but hey I think I’m slightly better than I was a yr ago

    xxx
    carolinestyling
    carolinefashionstying.com

  4. Anja Pavlov
    May 9, 2016 / 6:15 pm

    Fenomenalan post! Obozavam da citam stvari na tvom blogu, cak i kada imam los dan mi se raspolozenje popravi i dobijem inspiraciju da ustanem i da poradim na sebi. Kisses from Novi Sad :*

  5. LYDYA
    May 9, 2016 / 6:39 pm

    since you came into my life (hopefully this doesn’t sound too crazy and creepy cause I actually follow your social networks and we never met in real life) I feel you so much and I really consider yourself as a dear friend. I love Monday confessions and somehow you always manage to open up the subjects and themes that considere me big time. So, dearest Tamara, you did it again. Especially topic number one! Just what I needed. Love you! Thank you for everything!

  6. May 9, 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Those for points are great!!!

  7. Dragana
    May 9, 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Bravo! Ovo nam je svima potrebno.Samo nastavi sa ovakvim postovima <3

  8. May 10, 2016 / 12:34 am

    Great post! I definitely need to take your tips on board. I’m going to set myself the task of decluttering my wardrobe before i move in a few weeks so i don’t take all the useless things with me!

    http://whaticallbeautiful.blogspot.co.uk

  9. Anonymous
    May 10, 2016 / 10:47 am

    Odlican post. Savrseno poredjenje sa flasterima. Ja sam ista pocnem jedno,pa drugo,pa… i nista nije zavrseno. Trudim se da to izbjegnem. Nista nije gore od toksicnih ,ljubomornih,sebicnih i nezahvalnih ljudi. Do skoro jedna takva osoba me bukvalno unistavala. Ali tome je ,hvala Bogu,dosao kraj. Tacno boljelo je ali se brzo zaboravilo i sada mi je puno bolje. Divan post! :-) <3

  10. May 11, 2016 / 2:52 am

    Thanks for such a great post; I really enjoyed reading it. I agree with you on every point; my weakest points here are probably work-related mess and a cluttered closet. I have to deal with that until summer comes for sure.
    P.S. I was really happy to discover your blog today! Have a great day, Tamara:)

    Yuliannova

  11. May 11, 2016 / 11:51 am

    You look so absolutley stunning in your dress. I´m so in love with this beautiful color and all the pics are awesome and your words too. I totally agree. Thanks for sharing my dear, love, x S.Mirli (http://www.mirlime.com)

  12. May 11, 2016 / 12:28 pm

    I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. My mind is always all over the place trying to make sure that all of my work gets done and everyone around me is happy too. Being a student is extra on top of that, so I will be in class and thinking about everything going on in the outside world. Planning my days out has helped me significantly!
    Omnivogues

  13. May 11, 2016 / 3:31 pm

    Odlican tekst. :)

  14. May 11, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    Hey girl.. Yet another fantastic post… if only it was that easy to get rid of time wasters. i guess this is a learning process for me and everyone else that reads this post, she’s right Less is always More. Thanks for having so much knowledge.

    Beautiful dress by the way.

    Ese Janta
    http://www.esejanta.co.uk/

  15. May 12, 2016 / 2:41 am

    These are such great tips! I definitely need to cleanse my wardrobe more often haha.

    Best,
    Christina

    Looks by Lau

  16. May 12, 2016 / 12:48 pm

    Hi! You are so right! It’s a very personal post and I know that it’s really hard to talk about deep personal thoughts with the public! But that’s so important!
    I also did this kind of detoxing my life: threw away things which I will never use and need again (I had tones of magazines), stopped talking to people who were not interested in my life,… . It was the best decision ever! :) I send you many love from Hamburg, Leni
    http://theblondejourney.com/

  17. May 12, 2016 / 4:48 pm

    This is such a great post! I am the same as you, with me head completely cluttered with thoughts. Meditation every morning for 15 minutes really helps center me as well as decluttering my surroundings, like you mention in your tips. Thanks so much for sharing!
    http://www.sprinklesandsaturdays.com

  18. Amy-Anne Williams
    May 12, 2016 / 8:34 pm

    Messy person here too! And I know once you mean, once you start relying on yourself you kind of have to be a lot tidier ahaha.

    Amy;
    Little Moon Elephant

  19. MrsBird
    May 25, 2016 / 11:39 am

    I’m going through this right now – at that age where you realise you don’t care how many ‘friends’ you have – you just want your best people around you. Love this. So true. x

  20. Jul 22, 2016 / 8:56 pm

    This post definitely came at an opportune time! I completely relate when you say that thoughts can be messy/disorganized too! I always find that when I physically organize my things, it translates into clarity of thought. Thank you for sharing your tips!
    P.S the cobalt blue dress is gorgeous on you! So feminine!

    http://www.karishmaruparel.com/

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