How to Deal With Changes | Monday Confessions

I know that you have been waiting for this moment for so long, and I am happy to finally be back with the Monday Confessions. Due to a lot of recent life events I got specially inspired to write about changes.

When I was in elementary school I found this book at home called “Who moved my cheese?” I never really stopped thinking about it and got fascinated by the topic. One thing I realised at the very young stage is how important it is to adapt to changes.  Before I was 6 years old, we changed about 7 different homes, I changed cities and even kindergartens. I very early learned that if you don’t adapt quickly to what life throws at you, you get thrown out of game.

But actually we all go through changes in life, its just that some people adapt to new situation easily whereas others are holding onto the old times for as long as possible, even until it becomes painful for them and the environment

I decided to write this post about changes because I have been going through a lot of them recently, some unexpected, some for better, some for what I thought are going to be for worse. After all I just realised that the only constant thing in my life are changes, yesterday I was in LA, today in London, tomorrow Barcelona, my job is unpredictable and no one knows what will happen the day after tomorrow.

Changes can happen at any point of your life, from changing from one school to another to changing jobs, cities, breaking your relationship, losing friends, pets, money…anything at all. If you cant remember your own difficulty in adapting to a change, then think of that one friend that for sure you have, that one that could never get over her ex and would still not move on years after. Yeah that is unhealthy way to deal with changes

Znam da ste cekali ovaj post toliko dugo, ali sam srecna sto sam konacno u mogucnosti da opet pisem Ispovesti Ponedeljkom. Mnogo toga mi se desilo u poslednje vreme i inspirisana skorasnjim dogadjajima odlucila sam da vam pisem o zivotnim promenama.

Kada sam bila u osnovnoj skoli pronasla sam knjigu koja se zove “Ko je maznuo moj sir?” Nikada nisam prestala da razmisljam o njoj, zaista me je fascinirala.  Sa veoma malo godina shvatila sam da je neophodno biti prilagodljiv i znati kako se nositi sa promenama. Pre nego sto sam napunila 6 godina moja porodica i ja smo se preselili 6 puta, ziveli smo u 2 grada i ja sam pohadjala nekoliko razlicitih vrtica. Shvatila sam da uvek moras biti spreman na novu promenu i da ako se ne prilagodis dovoljno brzo, zivot te nece cekati.

Svi mi prolazimo kroz promene u zivotu, neki se ljudi jednostavno prilagoda lakse, neki ljudi ni ne primete da se promene odvijaju,a drugi zaista cvrsto stoje u proslosti i drze se starih vremena sto moze biti lose i za njih i za okruzenje.

Odlucila sam da napisem post o promenama jer sam prosla mnogo toga u poslednje vreme, neke neocekivane stvari, promene na bolje, neke koje sam mislila da su na losije i slicno.Juce sam bila u Los Andjelesu, danas sam u Londonu, sutra u Barceloni, moj posao je zaista nepredvidiv i niko ne zna sta ce biti sutra.

Promene se mogu desiti bilo kada, mogu i da podrazumevaju mnogo toga. Od menjanja skole, do posla, grada, prekida veze, gubljenja prijatelja, kucnih ljubimaca, novca…bilo sta. Ako ne mozete da se setite jednog trenutka u zivotu kada vam je bilo tesko da se prilagodite na promenu, setite se te prijateljice koja dugo dugo nije mogla da se navikne na zivot bez bivseg momka, pa je ostala sama i izgubila mnogo vremena na negativne emocije.

Now lets discuss why changes are important, how to deal with them, and my experiences:

1.Changes will always happen so better learn to deal with them. I once read a quote which said, “This too shall pass”, meaning that no matter if its good or bad, it will pass, as things change with the time. Nothing stays the same. It is a really good attitude to have, because we all know that we have been through many changes in life, and even what seemed like such a challenge in the past, its over now.

2.Grow with the change. Changes can be challenging as I previously said which means that you will grow as a person and become better. If you are constantly immersed in comfort of routine, there is absolutely nothing new and you can not develop. So if you are at that job, where you are not exactly happy, but very comfortable, its time to change and become better at what you do.

3.Changes can be frightening, moving to another city is your dream, but just not something you think you can do, you will never know unless you try.

4.Having an open mind an accepting changes as a new chapter in your life always helps. In life everything is about how you perceive it. Is that a black dot on the wall or an ant? It can be anything you think of. The same is with the changes. You can look at the change as the end of the world, but you can also look at it as the beginning of something amazing. Whatever you think of it, that is exactly what it will become.

Panta Rhei – Everything Floats, everything can change. The only constant thing in life is the change. If you got fired, dumped, you loose documents or the house of your dreams? It just means that its time to try and build a better one, get a better job, or find a better partner. Changes happen so that we can evolve and make the most out of our lives, its on us what we do with it.

Nego da se bacimo na ono sto sve zanima, kako se nositi sa promenama:

1.Promene se desavaju svakodnevno, zato je bolje nauciti kako sa njima. Jednom sam procitala citat citat :”I to ce proci”, shvatila sam da bez obzira da li bili srecni ili tuzni, to nije zauvek, tako da nista ne ostaje isto. Ovo je odlican stav za usvajanje, jer cete uvek biti spremni na promene u zivotu, cak i oni trenuci koji su bili veoma teski za vas u zivotu su sada iza vas, zar ne? I to je proslo.

2.Napredujte sa izazovom. Promene mogu biti nezgodne, ali donose odlicnu lekciju sa kojom mi rastemo i razvjamo se dalje. Ako ste konstantno u zivtonoj situacji gde se nista ne menja nikada necete napredovati.Izazovi i nova iskustva su neophodna za razvice.

3.Promene su zastrasujuce. Oduvek ste zeleli da zivite u drugom gradu, ali se bojite da necete uspeti? Ako ne probate nikada necete znati.

4.Uvek budite otvoreni za sve opcije. Slobodan um je neprocenjiv. To ce vam pomoci da prihvatite promene, a u zivotu je zaista sve onako kako se vama cini. Da li je to samo crna tackica na zidu ili je mrav? To je upravo ono sto vi mislite da je. Isto je i sa promenama, mozete na njih gledati kao da su smak sveta ili kao pocetak neceg novog, boljeg. Sta god vi mislite, to cete i postati.

Panta Rhei – Sve Tece, sve se menja. Jedina konstanta u zivotu je promena. Ako ste dobili otkaz, raskinuli vezu, izgubili vazne dokumente ili kucu iz snova, sve je to promena. Samo znaci da je vreme da izgradite bolju, nadjete boljeg partnera, bolji posao i da od svog zivota napravite najbolju mogucu verziju istog.

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29 Comments

  1. 567
    Apr 25, 2016 / 10:56 am

    Konacnoo. ;) Divna si.

  2. xxx
    Apr 25, 2016 / 11:05 am

    fenomenalan tekst!

  3. Sanja
    Apr 25, 2016 / 11:24 am

    Ekstermno me obraduje kad vidim isoivesti ponedeljkom na tvom blogu. Dobre teme biraš, ova je posebno zanimljiva, takođe lepe savete si dala.

    https://spersonally.wordpress.com/

  4. Apr 25, 2016 / 1:00 pm

    Empowering post, Tamara! I’m not good with changes, and I’m doing that a whole lot this year. Don’t know if I could go through it, but we’ll see what’ll happen. x

    http://www.ashrealasitgets.blogspot.com

  5. Apr 25, 2016 / 1:13 pm

    Love this post! I’m definitely someone who dislikes change, but I should really learn to embrace it, after all, change is what keeps life interesting!

    forevabelle.blogspot.co.uk

  6. Maria
    Apr 25, 2016 / 1:40 pm

    AAAAAA obozavaaam, jednostavno, direktno, inspirativno…Bravo!

  7. adele
    Apr 25, 2016 / 1:50 pm

    This is such an important topic…it’s so important to embrace change & run with it. Nothing is constant. I love change – mixing things up, pushing the boundries, whereas my sister really struggles with it & actually does much of the same all the time to be remain under her safety blanket. In other ways we are so alike but in this way we are so different.
    Would love to know more about your recent changes.
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  8. Apr 25, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    I think change is one of the things that’s held me back most, especially since going to university. It still scares me a bit but this post feels like a good place to start changing. Really love your blog! Thanks x

  9. La Bijoux Bella |by mia
    Apr 25, 2016 / 2:38 pm

    Changes are essentials in life … It’s a parfait inspirational post for a Monday! :)

    La Bijoux Bella | by mia

  10. Apr 25, 2016 / 4:45 pm

    You are right Tamara, I’ve missed your Monday Confessions a lot and I so happy they are back! :)
    I totally agree with you that changes are good and you always have to accept any situation life brings you and try to pull out the best of it.
    It’s so important to constantly challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone to learn and grow.
    xx
    http://putitallonme.com/

  11. Anonymous
    Apr 25, 2016 / 5:12 pm

    U pravi cas procitah :-D , taman za 20 min imam ispit a ovo je opustajuce, inspirativno I najvaznije istinito. Pa kako bude I to ce proci :-) :-D

  12. Xx
    Apr 25, 2016 / 5:47 pm

    Na ovo se cekalo! Obozavam Ispovesti ponedeljkom!

  13. Apr 25, 2016 / 9:30 pm

    I am so happy that Monday Confessions are back ! I love this topic because I also have been going through some changes in the past 6 months and all I have to say is that ( a very good quote that I found on Instagram ): “Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end” So true !!

    http://fashionsofa.net

  14. Belgrade_girl
    Apr 26, 2016 / 2:39 pm

    Draga Tamara, veoma sam srecna sto opet pises Ispovesti ponedeljkom! Ovaj tekst kao i svi prethodni su odlicni! Samo tako nastavi, zelim ti puno uspeha u radu. <3

  15. Apr 26, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    Fantastic post! I’ve always adapted very fast to changes, especially moving. I’ve never second guessed why, it has always been just the beginning of a new chapter.

    xo
    http://www.carinavardie.com

  16. Mateja
    Apr 26, 2016 / 9:01 pm

    Sviđa mi se post, ali tu sam jer ti želim nešto drugo reći. Jako mi je drago da si odgovorila na pitanje vezano uz Zoranu. Mislim da je sad svima sve jasnije i da te neki možda više zbog toga ne osuđuju. Razumijem potpuno da ste dva različita svijeta i to se jednostavno vidjelo i na videima i svugdje. I razumijem da nekad izgleda bezobrazno sa tvoje strane što ste prijateljstvo prekinuli u nekom teškom razdoblju za Zoranu, ali to je nešto što se očigledno dugo provlačilo. I sama sam bila u situacijama kad sam prekidala neke prijateljske veze na isti način, nekad inicirano s moje strane, a nekad s tuđe. I uvijek se pokazalo da je to bilo bbaš kako je trebalo biti. Ljudi koji pripadaju u našem životu će ostati ili doći, bio to dečko ili prijateljica. Volim pratiti i tebe i Zoranu i mislim da je svaka zanimljiva na svoj način i da radi svoj posao onako kako najbolje zna, ali ste jako različite. :)

  17. Apr 27, 2016 / 3:12 am

    Love this Tamara! As a student and blogger, it is really important to be adaptable to change! I love these kinds of posts :)
    Omnivogues

  18. Rosa
    May 2, 2016 / 7:42 am

    100% si u pravu, bravo za tekst. Ako nekad odlucis da pises o samopouzdanju i(li) o stidljivosti, znaj da cu procitati svako slovo :-*

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