What is it that differentiates successful people from those who aren’t so successful? I spent days reading so many interviews on Forbes and of course days reading the studies of people who devoted their lives to see what is it that successful people do differently. Probably most of us know this inside and out since we tend to hear it in the school, from our parents or along the way, but the next 10 points are what i have noticed that differentiates big fish from the little fish in the sea.
1.Be Kind! This is my point number one, because the really successful people are extremely polite. They are kind and friendly which comes from their confidence. People who aren’t so kind can never make it to the very top. Being kind doesn’t mean you have to do many favours to people and constantly smile at everyone. It just means staying professional, friendly and never letting the ego get the best of you. Remember if you want to be successful you really have to be kind.
2.Be on time. I guess this is a very obvious one, it also fits in the “be professional group”. Living in a big city often means being stuck in traffic, running late to meeting, and that can also happen due to Vis Major latin for superior force, but being late because you wanted to grab a coffee before the meeting, or because you got drunk last night at that party and couldn’t wake up on time is a no go. You can not find success if you are constantly running late, and no its not a character flaw, its a habit that can easily be broken.
3.Clean You Space! This is a major one for me, I can be pretty messy and that is when things are not working out for me. I can’t find right outfits, I can’t find my card reader, the right lens, electricity adapter, charger or the passport. All of this can give me a lot of stress and the time I spend searching for things recently turned into time for reading. I organised my space, my wardrobe and my computer, that gave me better insight in my schedule and helped me stay on top of the things. Keep your space tidy for a neat mind.
4.Stay out of comfort zone. To grow we must leave the comfort zone and this is something successful people do all the time. Talk to poeople in the shop, take on different tasks, try a new sport, anything that could change your comfortable routine. It was only when I started doing different stuff on daily basis when my blog started growing. You learn so much and acquire new skills every day. Comfort is boring, get out of your comfort zone.
5.Keep Learning. Don’t ignore all those valuable lessons around you, learn learn and learn. Successful people learn constantly and not just from people above them. I read an interview of a CEO of a big company who said she sometimes learns from her office cleaner, door man or even a DHL man delivering parcels. From how to talk to people to some body language tips, every day you could be learning something new.
6.Talk to people. Not only that we live in a digital era when people are just glued to their phones and don’t pay attention to anything around them but also by not talking to people you are becoming worse at the most important skill for success- people skill. Knowing how to make people happy, how to talk to them, how to negotiate, who is who can help. Working in a pharmacy for over two years helped me know how to talk to strangers after just one sentence exchanged. Knowing people is the best thing you could know.
7.They never make excuses. I think we have covered this topic HERE. Who needs excuses anyway?
8 They Exercise Incredible Drive. The most successful people I know are driven, they push and push until the job is done. They don’t stop until the target is reached and do not let any emotion or demotivation get to them. Unsuccessful people often dwel over too many feelings, why didn’t this work out, why isn’t this happening to me, instead of how could I make this happen next time? Drive is not something you are born with, its something you exercise, a muscle which you need to be successful.
9.They focus on their goals daily. If you want to be a Volleyball team captain today, and a journalist tomorrow you will never achieve anything. Focus on that goal, think about it every day and reach for it. Successful people never lose their focus, they know their direction they know where they want to be and thats where they head to.
10.They are willing to fail. Because failure is a huge part of success. J.K.Rowling received so many rejections before someone actually accepted to publish Harry Potter. If she wasn’t willing to go through failure and take that “NO” she would never be so successful today. If you are not willing to fail you might not be able to succeed, as life is not a fairy tale and you sometimes just have to take whatever it throws at you. Failure is not the end of the world, its a huge part of every day life.
I agree that being successful is a subjective thing and that you are successful depending on how you and others perceive you, but adapting every day habits can help you reach your goals and be happy. After all, being happy is what really matters even more than being successful. Working towards something and just following certain dream is in my opinion a key to happiness.
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Koja je razlika izmedju uspesnih ljudi i onih kojima ne polazi bas sve za rukom? Provela sam dane citajuci mnoge intervjue na Forbsovom sajtu i naravno studije o ljudima koji su posvetili zivote da otkriju sta uspesni ljudi rade drugacije. Mnogi od nas verovatno i znaju ove stavke, cujemo ih u skoli ili od roditelja, ali mislim da je dobro podsetiti se sta je to sto nas mozda vuce na drugu stranu.
1.Budite ljubazni! Ovo je moja stavka broj jedan, jer su svi uspesni ljudi veoma ljubazni i srdacni. Njihova ljubaznost uglavnom dolazi iz samopouzdanja. Ljudi koji su prilicno uobrazeni i britki na recima su oni koji nikada nece stici do samog vrha. Biti ljubazan ne znaci ciniti ljudima usluge i smeskati se svima, to samo znaci ostati profesionalan i nikada ne dopustiti egu da upropasti poslovne saradnje. Setite se da ukoliko zelite da budete uspesni, morate biti i ljubazni.
2.Nemojte kasniti. Mislm da je ovo jako ocigledno, ali spada u grupu “budite profesionalni”. Od kako zivim u velikom gradu shvatila sam da je stici na vreme ponekad tesko, s ozbirom da je saobracaj nemoguc i da se mnogo toga moze desiti ali to je Vis Major. Ipak nemojte kasniti jer ste stali usput i na kafu, jer ste sinoc zaglavili u izlasku ili jer vas je mrzelo da ustanete iz kreveta. Ljudi koji uvek kasne ne rade to iz karaktera vec iz navike koja se moze razbiti.
3.Rascistite radni prostor. Ovo je nesto jako bitno za mene jer u svim obavezama mogu da shvatim kako radim na gomili papira, kako nemam gde da sednem i kako su kablovi bas svugde oko mene. Ne mogu da pronadjem citac kartica, gde je majica za taj outfit, nema ni objektiva, adaptera za struju, punjaca pa ni pasosa. Sve ovo mi donese mnogo stresa, jer uglavnom trazim bitne stvari u poslednjem trenutku. Od kako sam organizovala svoj radni prostor, garderober, kompjuter sve mi je dalo bolju ideju o tome sta i kako, bolji uvid u moj raspored i lakse pronalazim stvari.
4. Ostanite van svoje zone udobnosti. Da bismo rasli na licnom i poslovnom nivou moramo iskusiti nove izazove. Ovo je nesto sto uspesni ljudi stalno rade. Razgovarajte sa ljudima u prodavnici, preuzmite razlicite odgovornosti na sebe, probajte novi sport, bilo sta sto bi promenilo vasu rutinu. Tek kada sam pocela da radim stvari drugacije sam primetila da je i moj blog poceo rasti. Udobnost je dosadna, izadjite is svoje zone udobnosti.
5.Ucenje nikada ne prestaje. Nemojte ignorisati sve vredne lekcije koje mozete pokupiti oko sebe. Ucite, ucite i ucite i to ne samo iz knjiga. Uspesni ljudi svakodnevno uce od ljudi oko sebe i ne samo onih koji su iznad njih. Skoro sam citala intervju sa CEO-om jedne firme koja je rekla da svaki dan uci nesto i od cistacau firmi, od coveka koji donosi postu, od bilo koga. Mozete pokupiti uvek nesto zanimljivo pocevsi od toga kako razgovarati sa ljudima, do govora tela.
6.Razgovor sa ljudima. Ne samo da zivimo u digitalnoj eri kada su ljudi zalepljeni za svoje telefone i ne posvecuju ni malo paznje icemu oko sebe, ali ukoliko ne razgovarate sa ljudima i ne negujete ovu sposobnost, ona ce se izgubiti. Izuzetno je bitno znati kako sa ljudima, kako da ih ucinite srecnim, kako da pregovarate, da dajete instrukcije i slicno. Rad u apoteci mi je znatno pomogao u ovom polju jer sam preko 2 godine svakodnevno razgovarala sa ljudima i sada mogu da procenim ko je ko posle samo dve recenice. Poznavanje ljudi je najbolja stvar koju mozete znati.
7.Ne pravite izgovore. Ovu sam temu vec pokrila OVDE. Izgovori nikome i nicemu ne sluze.
8.Uspesni ljudi vezbaju svoju strastvenost ka poslu. Najuspesniji ljudi imaju u sebi taj motiv, strast, guraju sami sebe napred dok ne zavrse ono sto su hteli. Ne zaustavljaju se dok ne stignu do cilja i ne dopustaju emocijama ili demotivaciji da ih stigne. Ljudi koji nisu uspesni cesto dopustaju osecanjima da preuzmu kormilo,”zato ovo nije proslo?”, “kako ovde nisam uspeo?”, “zasto se ovo bas meni desava?”, umesto da razmisljaju kako da se desi nesto bolje sledeci put. Motivacija nije nesto sa cime se rodite, ona je misic koji morate vezbati i koji vam je potreban da biste uspeli.
9.Dnevno se fokusirajte na svoj cilj. Ako zelite da budete kapiten tima danas a sutra novinar, nikada necete postici nista. Fokusirajte se na cilj, razmisljajte o njemu svaki dan dok ne dodjete do njega. Uspesni ljudi nikada ne gube fokus i jako su koncentrisani na ono sto zele da postignu. Znaju u kom pravcu da idu i vec su krenuli.
10.Ne boje se pada. Zato sto je neuspeh veliki deo uspeha. J.K.Rowling je primila veliki broj odbijenica dok jedna izdavacka kuca konacno nije prihvatila da izda Hari Potera. Da nije bila spremna da prihvati mnoge odbijenice i zatvorena vrata sigurno ova cuvena knjiga nikada ne bi videla svetlo dana. Ako niste spremni na neuspeh niste spremni ni na uspeh, zivot nije bajka i nekada morate prihvatiti sta god baci u vasem pravcu. Trenutni pad nije kraj sveta, samo je deo vaseg puta.
Slazem se da je uspeh subjektivna stvar i da to koliko ste uspesni dosta zavisi i od sopstvene percepcije, ali ono sto je neminovno je da ukoliko prilagodite svoje navike mozete biti srecniji i doci do nekih svojih ciljeva. Uostalom, biti srecan je mnogo bitnije nego biti uspesan. Ali rad ka cilju je nesto sto je po mom misljenju kljuc ka sreci.